“On suddenly catching sight of [the] beloved, the
heart of the lover begins to palpate.”--Book II of De Arte Honesti
Amandi [On the Art of Honest Loving] by Andreas Capellanus
Rule 12 from this 12th-century manual on
courtly love from the Golden Age of Chivalry echoes what was, is, and will always
be known—the human eye [male and female, alike] “enjoys a comely appearance.”
There is zero disparity in the sexes when it comes to
enjoying eye-appeal but…there is a marked difference in aspects/attributes that
“make the grade” for each sex.
That is, what might be high on the list for Gents,
might be mighty low on the list for Ladies and vice versa.
An understanding of these differences can lead to
better understanding, better profile pics on dating apps, targeted motivation
in the conditioning department to attract or retain love.
At the very least, it can go a long way to correct
gross misunderstandings based on assumptions.
Example: The male of the species
enjoys a view of certain nether regions that is out of proportion to the importance
placed by the opposite gender. This often leads to strange assumptions, “Hmm,
I would covet a view of ‘what’s down there’ so she will be equally enthusiastic
about me sending this proud d#@k pic.”
She won’t be as enthusiastic—not all.
To be fair, the female of the species having a
different set of priority preferences can make the same solipsistic assumption
errors and attempt to feature attributes that hold little sway while devaluing
treasures.
In short, the genders assume, “Well, this is what I
like and look for first, so that is what they like, too.”
Often these assumptions are way off base.
In Part 1, we shall explore What it is that Women
really Want and in Part 2 we’ll flip the menu and provide the service for
the Fairer Sex.
First: How Do We Know What Women Like?
Well, science has used a new-fangled technology called,
“Asking them.”
Question batteries regarding the attractiveness of physical
attributes were distrusted across every region of the US.
The male body was broken into Nine Attributes
1. Face
2. Eyes
3. Abs
4. V-Cut
[aka, the inverted wedge effect created by broad shoulders to a slim waist.]
5. Legs
6. Chest
7. Hair
8. Arms
9. Other
[Naughty bits can and did show up in this category, but it also featured responses
such as feet, hands, rear-end etc. So, in other words guys, don’t assume “other”
to mean only one thing.
These question batteries were also backed by
eye-tracking software, where women were shown photos of attractive males.
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The eye-tracker recorded where the gaze went
first.
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Where the gaze lingered.
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Where the gaze returned to in male images
regarded as attractive.
Why the Eye-Tracker Back-Up?
To adjust for reasons that “sound good” and real
reasons.
That is, we often say what is socially acceptable as a
mask for what is really on one’s mind.
Example: Which one is
true?
“Brad Pitt was really witty and charming in that interview,
that’s why I enjoyed it.”
Or…
“Brad Pitt is easy on the eyes; what did he talk
about in the interview? Not a clue.”
Added Value
A fascinating bit of info, to me at least, the
question batteries segmented the female respondents by geographical location,
income distribution and age to if there were differences.
There were.
Again, mighty useful.
Example: Say, you’re a
man in your 60s wanting to maintain your spark, do you want to spend time on something
that was impressive to a 20-year-old or devote time to the luscious vintage you
actually pitch woo, too?
Play the odds, Brothers and Sisters. Play the odds.
The Overall Breakdown
Let’s go back to those 9 Body-Parts and hit them in
order of reporting and eye-tracker excitability.
Coming in at #1
The Chest
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24% of women said, this is the
eye-candy draw. Eye-tracking software backs it.
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The chest seemed to convey power, capability
and overall can-do.
#2: Hair
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This comes in at 23%, just a smidge off
the chest score.
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Never fear my balding compadres—it seems you’re
not out of the game.
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The kindly female gets that many lose
their hair—the crux being whether luscious locks or shaved scalp--cleanliness,
care, attention to top of the noggin’ appearance was the key.
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What does NOT make the grade: Comb-overs, toupees,
dying one’s hair, dirty hair, sloppy haircuts, and the ever-present hat.
The Old Man’s Hair Anecdote
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The Missus and I have been together for
decades.
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I have sported a shorn tight haircut for
decades—didn’t want it pulled out during wrestling.
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I was shaved down when she met me, and on
thru the years.
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She has stated to me on many an occasion,
and I quote: “I think long hair on a man is a hard NO.”
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I go in for knee surgery a few years back,
know I won’t be on the mat for a bit, so in a bit of petulance I skipped
cutting my hair for a bit.
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Went thru that long awkward phase of weird
lengths with her [and most everyone I met] saying, “So, what’s going on with
that hair?”
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It finally hits Tarzan length, my kinda
sorta goal and I say, “Well, I guess I can cut it if you want.”
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She says to me, essentially, what Lisa
Bonet said to Jason Momoa [his wife at the time] when he offered to cut his, “Do
it, and we’re done.”
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From that time forward I’ve been a big believer
in, if ya got it--use it.
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It ya ain’t got it—do it in Jason Stathan/Bruce
Willis style.
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Work the baldness like a feature not a bug.
#3: Arms
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19% love an arm that says strength.
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Keep in mind, seldom is it the swole/’roided
version that men themselves dig and use to signal to other men [Consider that it is men who are far and away the biggest consumers of muscle mags and like YouTube channels. If enhanced physiques were the feminine draw some claim, we'd see a more equitable consumption--we don't--it's not even close. It seems men use steroids to impress other men. Hmmm.]
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It seems women prefer a strong arm within natural
limits.
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The Charles Bronson arm vs. the Schwarzenegger
arm.
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Often, “too jacked” chest/arms/elsewhere
was seen as overkill, vanity, a signal that too much time was spent in the gym
and perhaps not elsewhere.
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I’m just reporting here, kids, don’t jump
on me.
#4: Abs
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And here, not bodybuilder abs, think more
Brad Pitt Fight Club.
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Also, note this comes in around 13%. Not that
high on the roster.
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But…do not despair, wait till we get to
age breakdowns.
#5: V-Cut
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The wide shoulder/slim waist wedge comes in
at 9%.
#6: Other
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7% is our mysterious other.
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The smart money is on not the subject of
so many unwanted pics but on the tush.
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And don’t read that to be, “Aha! I’ll
send a photo of my ass!”
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Nope, don’t do that.
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Read that 7% to mean—a high tight gluteus
maximus that signals power inside one’s clothing.
#7 Eyes
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A measly 3% garnered by our peepers.
#8: The Face
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2%.
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That number should be a jaw-dropper for
men as eye-tracking for men puts this attribute waaaaaaaaaaaay higher. [Again,
see Part 2 Ladies, to see what to emphasize for yourselves.]
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2% is both good news and explanatory for
us men.
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It explains how we often see a cauliflower
eared, weathered face still garner a bit of favor, that is, if the body parts higher
on the list are well-attended.
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Let’s face it, Daniel Craig’s kisser is not
worthy of a male model, but…he rocks the higher placed attributes and becomes a
sex symbol.
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Seldom does it work the other way.
#9: Legs
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1%
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That’s it.
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Some will see that as an excuse to skip
leg day.
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I’m not advocating that but…
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If our priorities are in a different
direction, you’d never skip upper body day, clean that coif or buff that head, and
trim that chassis to reveal that V-Cut and other eye-tracked coveted candy.
Ranking By Region
We will spend little time here as the above breakdown
pretty much holds.
Suffice to say, the Western and Northwestern states put
a lot of stock into that coveted chest, the Midwest leans a bit towards the
Strong Arms, and the South put the Chest and Hair neck-and-neck.
Ranking by Income
Gets a little fun here. Income was ranged from $0-$24,999
per year all the way up to $150,000+
It was subdivided into $25,000 increments.
The rankings in the initial section hold sway with an
interesting skew at both ends of the scale.
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Women with low income really dug strong
arms.
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Women at the top of the scale, loved them
abs.
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While all in-between eye-tracked the chest
hands-down.
The takeaway—Know your market, Gents.
Preference Through Age and Variance
This is fascinating, again the main scores hold the
big truths but the altering tastes as the gender ages, well…
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Ages were broken up from 18-65+ into 5-year
increments.
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Women’s preference for strong arms is a
constant thru the years.
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But that whole V-Cut thing…it decreases thru
the years. Starts out to be a big deal with the 18–24-year-old group with a
gradual waning with each progressive 5-year jump.
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The moral, the younger man you are, the
more to work on that V-Cut.
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The 25–34-year-old group hold the face to
be the least important feature—and keep in mind it is already a very low
attractant for ages. Huzzahs for all we ugly men!
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Starting around age 45, women dug the
chest more and more and more with each passing year. Food for thought, my Compadres.
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Women over 65, well, chest is a big plus
and they just dig a man with beautiful hair. [Scarcity economics.]
The Moral of the Story
We should train because it’s good for us.
Because it supports our combat training goals.
But there ain’t no harm in making the candy sweeter if
you are on the market or off.
I say, even more if off the market in a committed relationship.
You love someone? They have to see you day in, day
out?
You wouldn’t deny them a night out at their favorite restaurant,
would you?
Of course not, you love them.
If you are in a committed relationship, you are the
only restaurant they got, so it seems the height of good service to look at the
menu of nine and do your best to make those top tier items as tasty as
possible.
Sure, you may think it doesn’t matter and she’ll say
she loves you just the way you are, you’re the cream in her coffee and all that
noise.
But throw some eye-tracking software on those sweet
comments.
Everybody likes candy.
Run a good candy shop.
Well, Ladies, I tried to set the Men straight. In part
2, I’m comin’ for ya. We’ll see what men are really after.
Buckle Up!
Resources for Sweetenin’ The Nine
Available Volumes in The Unleaded Program
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The Pliant Physique
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Core Stability
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Hips Stability
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GFF: Grip-Fingers-Forearms.
Upcoming Unleaded Volumes include…
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Hidden Gems: Stabilizing Muscle
[Pre-Hab, Re-Hab, & the True Core]
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The Shotgun Muscle Trifecta:
Strengthening the Peripherals
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The Shock Muscle Trifecta: Ballistic
Motion for Combat Athletes
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The Tarzan Twelve: Feats to Show Off
What You’ve Built
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And complete Batterys for Core:
Abdominal Strength and Rotational/Extension Game-Changers, Thigh-Hips-Knees,
Biceps, & Triceps.
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The Unleaded Female Warrior Program
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[Each Program is a DVD/Booklet package.]
More Resources for Livin’ the Warrior Life!
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