That is a
question that we would all love to answer with a hale and hearty “Of course, I’m no coward!”
But…the
answer is often less confident than that, despite whatever boasts we may make
to the contrary.
At our
core, in the very construct of our physiology we are seeming binary creatures.
We are
fight or flight, approach or avoid in our behaviors.
There is wisdom
in this binary schema in times of stress. As options multiply, the ability to
choose wisely and well begins to confound and overload the system, slowing down
vital decisions at the worst possible moment.
Chances
are our early ancestors had less confounding multipliers to add to the choice
mix. At times of peril it might be best to return to binary simplicity as other
species do.
When a
loud unfamiliar noise occurs my dog either growls and investigates based on the
timbre or caliber of the noise, or bolts immediately.
She [my
dog Tu’Sarri] is not observed to slow her flight checking for her purse or
smartphone, or giving a pre-flight hesitation looking to see what everyone else
is doing.
She flees
or growls first and then checks with the rest of the pack-family to assess how
to moderate the given binary choice.
More on
our binary nature.
The
amazing abilities your body exhibits while under stress are part of the
parasympathetic nervous system; these abilities are often referred to in the
layman’s term “the fight or flight response.” Again, notice that this parasympathetic
choice is black and white, either/or. Fight or flight is not subject to
subtlety, shades of gray, or abstruse gradations of reasoning. The
parasympathetic fight or flight response is a binary call to action--it’s one
or the other.
We need to
swallow this lesson now as most of us are steeped in civilized society (as we
have every right to be) and have adopted some cozy notions of security. Ideas
such as the police will handle my threats if I’m ever confronted. Allow me to
disabuse you of this idea, the police, while as efficient as they can be in
most cases, they are like FEMA in worst case scenarios--too little, too late.
911 is a
magnificent preventative tool if one has any foreknowledge of threat but if the
threat is a complete surprise then 911 is too late. Even if you do manage to
dial 911 just moments before your attack, how long will it take for emergency
support of any kind to arrive? Do you just plan to sit and wait the predator
attack out and hope that someone else will arrive in time to take
responsibility for saving your life?
Law enforcement and other emergency
personnel (firefighters, EMTs, et cetera) are known as first responders and it
is a deserved reputation but, in actuality, you are the first responder.
You as the victim are the first to react to whatever threat you have been
confronted with. It is up to you to be energized with your fight or flight
physiological boost and make the choice between the two that will best ensure your
survival.
We often
are more comfortable farming that choice out as we are unsure of ourselves, the
situation, or simply [and wisely] do not want to be hurt.
But there is a choice to ensure
yourself of pain (both physical and psychological) and quite possibly the
loss of your life or that of a loved one and that is to make no choice at all. Being immersed in the world of
civilized society can, for some, lead to an opossum-like state of vacillation
when confronted with non-civilized situations. This inertia is quite
understandable as we conduct the vast majority of our lives in a realm where
conflict is not violent, disputes are solved via reasoning or discussion [well,
in former pre-internet times] and, those we deal with respond in a reciprocal
manner. We have cultivated the habit of civilized conduct and when confronted
with behavior so far outside of our understanding we sometimes see a victim
stuck in neutral trying to evaluate the situation in terms of civilized
experience.
This sort of vacillation is a problem
as we, the civilized prey animal, have no correlating experience with which to
evaluate and handle the situation. What is occurring here, in mechanistic
terms, is a sort of cognitive short-circuiting of the parasympathetic nervous
system. The fight or flight response is an older system in brain development,
we easily recognize fight or flight parasympathetic reaction in “lower”
species. Our neo-cortex, which is responsible for all of the advances we have
made in culture, society, science et cetera, is a relatively new development.
When we encounter threat and subvert the older system (the parasympathetic)
with the newer system (neo-cortex) we essentially lock up both systems leaving
them both to spin their wheels and gain zero ground in protecting us from the
threat at hand.
We need to inoculate ourselves against
the possibility of this lock-up by making a conscious, cognitive choice now
before any hint of threat appears on the horizon. We must resolve now that we
will step out of the way and let the fight or flight response work its magic.
We inoculate ourselves by understanding the processes at war within our
craniums and make a decision to allow the civilized neo-cortex to fade away in
time of primitive threat so that the primitive parasympathetic system can work
at optimum capacity.
Deciding now to slough off the veneer
of civilized conduct if/when things go primitive is of vital necessity in your
quest for survival. You must reduce your cognitive options to two and only
two--fight or flight. There is nothing else to choose except loss.
But…unfortunately
that decision is sometimes not enough.
And…it
still does not answer the question: “Are
you a coward?”
In Part 3
of this series we will have a look at some surprising research that shows that
we can train for bravery, for
boldness, for courageous behavior.
This research
shows that we can make tweaks in our training and everyday life that raise our
“courage thresholds.”
If we
couple our decision to become binary animals with this research and the
accompanying practices, we may finally be able to answer that question with a
more probable affirmative.
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